divorce series: part 1

sending the wife in me away

there's a line from an avett brothers song that has gotten me through almost all aspects of my divorce. these words sum up perfectly my feelings about my marriage...its beginning and its end. 

all of it is only these words...

"always remember there was nothing worth sharing like the love that let us share our name"

i have no regrets.

my experience, and all the messy details, is a personal one. i also know that it isn't a remarkable one by any means. i'm apart of a very large statistic. and after over 4 years of healing, i want to speak plainly and honestly to all of you without undoing any of the hard work or filling in the space anyone close to the situation has put between them and what happened. this is not going to be a steamy tell-all...but i do have a story. and i'm hoping that it will encourage or buoy someone out there who just might need it....from someone who's been there, who still visits from time to time.

the intricacies of the end of my marriage are painful, and there was a time where i needed to put words to that pain on a daily. I’ve felt all sorts of hurts i never thought i would have to feel. but the beautiful thing about growth is that those brutal details, the ones you’re convinced you'll never be able to see past or get over...the things you think are the real source of your emptiness, somehow, over time, become the footnotes or afterthoughts to an even bigger story.

this was the beginning of mine.

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